Monday, September 10, 2018
I was having a conversation with a friend about relationships.
She said; “I’ve given up. I really do not think there is a man out there for me”.
So, what she’s really saying is that out of the 7 billion people on this Earth, she believes that not even one person is a match for her.
Out of the multi-million more seconds she will live, she believes that there won’t be one second of that when she will meet someone that she will spark with.
And out of all the millions of single men out there, she believes that not one of them is looking for someone just like her.
So, according to her - she believes that she is going to live the rest of her years alive, single - entering any sort of encounter with a man having already decided that it’s never going to eventuate into anything.
Now I’m not saying that being “single” is not a great thing - it is, for so many that are genuinely happy with it being that way.
But in her case, she wants to be in a loving relationship with her soul mate so much, that she’s not allowing herself the opportunity to enjoy her time getting to know herself, until she meets “him”.
Instead, she’s decided to give up on the possibility of it ever happening.
So, the laws of manifestation will ensure that she gets exactly what she has decided upon.
This got me thinking about so many other areas that we tend to shutdown the possibility of what we dream for to ever eventuate because of a deep, twisted belief that it’s a “fantasy" that won’t ever happen.
Like, running a meaningful, successful business that fulfils us on every level - because we’re not capable.
Or, living a lifestyle we really crave because we won’t ever have the money to sustain it.
Or landing our dream opportunities because we don’t really believe we’re good enough for them.
So, we move through the motions, hoping it will eventuate - dreaming about it and working hard for it - but deep down never really believing it will ever happen because we think we don’t deserve it.
The beauty of this realisation is that our power lies in understanding where we are self-sabotaging ourselves and addressing the real fear that’s stopping us from attaining our biggest desires.
Then aligning our deepest hopes and wishes to the genuine possibility of it working out, so that we take inspired action towards fulfilling our dreams.
Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result”.
I think insanity can also be defined as wishing for something but believing that it won’t ever happen because of a deep, twisted belief that it’s a dream we don’t deserve.
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